Wednesday, August 22, 2007

Crazymakers


I once had a creative writing teacher who told our class the following.

"To become a successful writer," he said, "you have to do two things. First, you have to toss your TV out the window. Second, you have to marry someone rich."

It was good advice, especially the TV part, but I think he could have added one more item to the list. Avoid Crazymakers.

Julie Cameron, in her book, The Artist's Way, describes Crazymakers as "those personalities that create storm centers. They are often charismatic, frequently charming, highly inventive, and powerfully persuasive. And," she adds, "for the creative person in their vicinity, they are enormously destructive. You know the type: charismatic but out of control, long on problems and short on solutions."

In short, they will sabatoge your writing time.

Early on in my writing career my life was filled with crazymakers. It seemed that every time I found a few hours to write and was just getting into the flow of a project my phone would ring or the door bell would buzz and one of the many crazymakers in my life would be there, sucking me into the eye of their storms. By the time I was able to hang up or they had moved on, I was totally derailed and could not get back into the project. Crazymakers never ask if it is a good time to call or visit, or if they are interrupting something. They just give it to you with both barrels.

I don't have as many crazymakers in my life anymore. I'm not sure why. Maybe I've became more protective of my time. Call display on the phone certainly helps and my real friends always understand that writing is my work, and that I have a truly miserable boss (me). When I give writing workshops and the participants ask how to become successful, I give them this advice: become tyrants with your time. Schedule writing into your week, and stick to the schedule. Don't let anyone steal your time, and that's really what it is. Stealing.

Most writers don't have the luxury of full writing days. They have to write in the margins of their lives, between paying jobs, carpooling the kids, maintaining a home and making meals. It's hard to squeeze in writing time, and when you do, you feel selfish, especially if you are not yet published. But that is the irony. To become published you have to spend hours, years, mastering the craft. You have to send out submissions and accept rejection letters. Above all else, you have to persevere. You have to write. And write. Expecting your family and friends to give you the time to work at your craft is not selfish. Avoid the crazymakers. They are not your friends. Your friends want you to be successful.

Remember that.

Here endith the sermon.

Oh, and don't forget, get rid of the TV.

Shelley

11 comments:

Katie Stroklund said...

Hello Shelley, My name is Katie Stroklund. I'm a senior in high school and I"m in a novel class. In this class we had to pick a book to read and do a project on, I thought Dancing Naked sounded very interesting so I decided to try it out. I loved it. It was the best book I have read. I mostly think I liked it so much because I could relate, I have a 5 month old son. I got pregnant when I was 16 and the beginning of my junior year. I decided to keep Jayden and keep going to school as long as I could. I'm in my senior year now and Jayden is big and healthy. My school is letting me graduate early. Most of all I wrote you this comment to tell you of what an amazing author you are. I didn't see an email address so that is why I left this long comment. Sorry about that. I would really love for you to respond. I would like to know more about your books. Thank you very much. My email is strokie_2008@hotmail.com
Thanks-Katie S.

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